Every mind matters: coping with everyday stress
Stress is something everyone experiences at one stage or more, but when life becomes demanding, whether through work, studying, caring responsibilities, finances, or unexpected challenges, stress can build up until everything feels overwhelming. When this happens, even ordinary tasks can feel harder than usual.
The good news is that there are small, simple actions you can take to support your wellbeing, help your mind slow down, and restore a sense of balance. You don’t need to fix everything at once. Every small step still counts. Every mind matters: coping with everyday stress
Understanding stress
Stress is your body’s natural response to pressure. It can help you stay alert or motivated, but too much stress for too long can affect your mood, sleep, energy, and ability to focus.
Common signs of stress include
In your body
· Tension in your shoulders, jaw, or stomach
· Headaches or fatigue
· Rapid heartbeat or shallow breathing
· Difficulty sleeping or waking up tired
· Feeling restless or wired
· Racing thoughts
· Difficulty concentrating
· Feeling easily overwhelmed
· Thinking “I can’t cope”
· Overthinking simple decision
· Irritability or frustration
· Feeling low, flat, or tearful
· Feeling on edge
· Becoming easily upset
· Feeling disconnected from yourself or others
Why stress builds up
Stress can build quietly, especially when there are lots of small pressures or more
You may notice stress increases when:
· You’re juggling too many responsibilities
· Your routine gets disrupted
· You’re not sleeping well
· You’ve been supporting others more than yourself
· You experience uncertainty or big changes
· You don’t get enough time to rest
· You’re carrying emotions you haven’t had space to explore
Small steps to help you feel more in control
These simple actions can help reduce stress and improve your wellbeing. You don’t need to try all of them, start with one or two that feel manageable.
1. Use deep breathing to calm your nervous system
When you’re stressed, your breathing becomes shallow and fast. Slowing it down can help your mind and body relax.
Try this calming breath:
Inhale for 4 → hold for 2 → exhale for 6
Repeat 5-7 times.
This slows your heartbeat, relaxes your muscles, and sends a “you’re safe” signal to your brain.
Other options include:
· Placing a hand on your stomach and breathing deeply
· Box breathing (4 in → 4 hold → 4 out → 4 hold)
· Lengthening your exhale to naturally relax your body
Even one minute can make a difference.
2. Break things down into manageable steps
When everything feels like “too much,” your brain can freeze. Breaking tasks into smaller steps helps reduce overwhelm.
Try:
· Writing down 3 small, achievable tasks
· Choosing one priority task and doing that first
· Dividing big tasks into mini steps
· Celebrating progress, even if small
3. Create regular moments of calm
When your day feels relentless, even a short pause helps your mind reset.
You could try:
· Sitting somewhere quiet for a few minutes
· Drinking something warm slowly
· Taking a few deep breaths before moving to your next task
· Lighting a candle or lowering overhead lights
· Listening to calming sounds or gentle music
These micro breaks stop stress from spiralling.
4. Move your body to release tension
Stress doesn’t just affect your mind, it sits in your body too. Movement helps release that tension and gives your brain a chance to reset.
Here are several types of movement that support stress relief:
Gentle movements for low energy days
Perfect when you feel tired, mentally drained, or overwhelmed.
· Slow neck and shoulder stretches
· Rolling your shoulders or wrists
· Gentle yoga poses like child’s pose or cat/cow
· Walking around your home or garden
· Sitting stretches while watching TV
· Stretching your arms overhead to release chest tension
These movements help relax tight muscles and reduce physical stress.
Quick mood boosting movements
Designed to lift your mood quickly.
· A brisk 5 minute walk
· Dancing around your room to one song
· Marching or stepping in place
· Going up and down the stairs once or twice
· Shaking your hands, arms, and legs to release energy
Just a few minutes can increase happy hormones, helping you feel more energised.
Grounding movements to calm anxiety
Useful when you feel on edge, panicky, or overstimulated.
· Slow stepping while feeling your feet on the floor
· Rocking gently side to side
· Stretching your hands and fingers intentionally
· Pressing your feet firmly into the ground
· Walking slowly while noticing textures and sounds
Strength based movements for pent up stress
Helpful when you feel agitated or restless.
· Wall pushups
· Squats using a chair for support
· Light weights or household items
· A short strength focused video
· Holding a strong pose for 10,20 seconds
Outdoor movement for a bigger wellbeing lift
Even a short time in nature helps reduce stress hormones.
You could try:
· A walk in green space
· Sitting outside for fresh air
· Walking while paying attention to colours, sounds, or smells
· Mindful observation of trees, clouds, or water
5. Practice self-kindness
Stress makes many people speak harshly to themselves.
But self,kindness reduces pressure and increases resilience.
Try reminding yourself:
· “I’m doing the best I can right now.”
· “It’s okay to take things slowly.”
· “It makes sense that I feel this way.”
Being kind to yourself doesn’t solve stress, but it helps you cope with it more gently.
6. Stay connected
Talking to someone can:
· Help you feel heard
· Provide emotional relief
· Give you a fresh perspective
· Remind you you’re not alone
Connection, even brief, helps reduce stress.
This could be a friend, family member, colleague, or
therapist.
Creating a supportive routine
Small habits can help you protect your wellbeing over time.
You could try:
· A 2-minute morning stretch
· Planning your day the night before
· Eating regular meals
· Drinking enough water
· Creating a simple bedtime routine
· Reducing caffeine later in the day
· Scheduling small pauses between tasks
· Allowing yourself rest without guilt
When stress becomes too much
If stress starts affecting your daily life, sleep, mood, relationships, or ability to function, it may be time to seek support.
A trained professional can help you:
· Understand what’s causing your stress
· Develop coping strategies
· Manage difficult emotions
· Feel more steady and supported
· Build long-term resilience
How Positive Talk Can Help
At Positive Talk, Counselling and Life Coaching Services we understand that stress can make life feel overwhelming. You don’t have to go through it alone.
We offer a warm, confidential space where you can explore what you’re carrying and learn tools to help you feel calmer and more in control.
In person sessions: Derby, Coventry, Manchester, Leamington Spa, Birmingham, and Greater London
Online Support: Available nationwide across the UK
Hours: 8am-9pm, 7 days a week
Contact us
Wondering if this is the right step?
Visit www.positive-talk.com to learn more, book a free consultation, or connect with someone who’s ready to listen.
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